Trip to Tulum, Mexico!

I did create a video of my experience, so feel free to check that if you prefer watching a video over reading. However, I do provide some additional context in this blog post which is not included in the video, so it might still be worth reading :) Monday, January 3, 2022 This was our travel day. We left landed in Cancun around noon local time and got on our shuttle to our resort (Dreams Tulum) which took about an hour and a half if I remember correctly. We didn't do much on Monday since by the time we got there and checked in, it was fairly late in the day and we were pretty tired. We did walk around a bit and find out where the pool was, but that was about it. We had a quick dinner at the Mexican restaurant then briefly stopped by the entertainment for the evening which was karoke with a live band. Tuesday, January 4, 2022 We spent a good amount of Tuesday in a presentation that they low-key tricked us into attending. Think timeshare presentation but not timeshare...We did get

What is Feminism, really?

I've seen a lot of misconceptions floating around about what it means to be a feminist. It has gotten to the point where many people who are actually feminists don't publicly identify that way because of the way they feel they will be perceived. Some people believe that feminists hate men. Some people believe that it's not possible to be a feminist and a stay-at-home mom. Some people believe that feminism is saying that women and men are the same. None of these things are true. The dictionary definition of feminism is, "the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes." I think the "equality of the sexes" portion is key here and what seems to trip up a lot of people. what does equality mean? To me, it means that we provide equal value to society and we should not be treated like lower class citizens. It does NOT mean that women are the same as men.  I am not the same as any other woman that I know. If i'm not even the same

My wife earns $500K a year, but drops $1,500 when she goes to the mall. She is jeopardizing our retirement

There is an  article going around twitter with the headline, " My wife earns $500K a year, but drops $1,500 when she goes to the mall. She is jeopardizing our retirement ".  You can see the actual tweet here . What I noticed from the responses to the tweet was: A lot of people did not read the article. A lot of people don't seem to believe in joint finances in a marriage A lot of people think 500k annually goes a lot further than what it actually does A lot of people don't know what it takes to retire comfortably...especially to retire early I saw a lot of comments saying "$1500 isn't much. That's a small percentage of what she makes". However, the article states that she is spending this as often as he spends $150 at the grocery store. The article mentions children, so we can reasonably assume that $150 isn't buying much more than a week's worth of groceries for the family. If she is spending $1500 every week at the mall, that adds up to ov

Insecurities in Dating

 I have a lot of thoughts on insecurities. It wasn't really something I thought about previously, but after they caused many issues in my last relationship, I've spent a lot of time thinking about this.  Disclaimer: I am not a therapist or professional in this field. These are just my thoughts based on my own experience. If you prefer to watch a video instead of reading, check out the  Youtube video . Aren't Insecurities Normal? I do think having some level of insecurity is normal, but I think it can sometimes go too far. I think there is a difference between being insecure about a couple of things vs being an insecure person. I would say that an insecure person is likely to be insecure about multiple different things across many different aspects of their life. I think that an insecure person is also more likely to let their insecurities get in the way of things. I think it's important to be aware of your insecurities and during any kind of conflict ask yourself whethe

Covid Vaccine: "I Still Need to Do My Research"

Intro I have a lot of frustrations around people's response to the covid vaccine, and I felt like this was a good place to let them out. I've also compiled some resources to address some of the common misconceptions about the vaccine. This is mainly aimed at the people who are saying they still need to do research. Disclaimer: I am not a medical profession or scientist. However, I have 2 engineering degrees, so I would say my critical thinking skills are pretty good. This post is just my personal opinion. Please do not take anything I say as medical advice. Categories of Unvaccinated People From what I'm seeing, people who haven't received the covid vaccine generally fall into 1 of 3 categories. Category 1: The Unsure They aren't really sure about it and don't really buy into conspiracy theories but maybe they have some concerns that they haven't really taken the time to look into. I think most of the concerns that people in this category have are p

Should Gender Roles Exist in 2021?

I have a possibly unpopular opinion that gender roles should not exist. I'm sure someone is reading this and immediately thought, "But why shouldn't they exist? Men and women are not the same?". That's true. We are not the same. However, most of our differences are generalizations. For example, men are typically physically stronger than women, but that doesn't mean that every single man is stronger than every single woman. There are cases where a woman may be stronger than the man. The gender role is that it should be the man who carries heavy things. In a scenario where the woman is stronger, does it really make sense for him to be the one to carry the heavy item? Or are people sticking to that norm simply because "that's what a man is supposed to". The rules and roles that we have are based on generalizations and often also based on a state of society that doesn't necessarily match our current state. There was a time where men worked

It's Tamia Month!

Tamia is my all time favorite artist! I don't think she has a song that I don't like and I could literally just listen to her songs for hours on end. Her birthday is May 9, so I decided to do a mini tribute to her with my covers for the month of May. Up first, we have Officially Missing You which is just an amazing song. This is a bit different than my typical covers since I used a backing track this time, so let me know your thoughts on that. Keep an eye on the playlist for the future covers in the series :)